June 20, 2008

Unsolicited advice

Being 25, single and living in Utah county can sometimes be a difficult thing. I have learned to make the most of it and enjoy my life the way it is. Many of you probably understand this all too well.

There are some people that feel or think that when they get engaged they now have all the answers to what makes love work. More often then not, they freely give this advice and tell me what I am doing wrong.

In the last year or year and a half I have been told many things that I need to do or change in order to meet my prince charming. Including but not limited to:

"I had a really hard childhood that is why I am getting this blessing now. You just haven't had enough trials to have earned it"

"I only found this because I was whole. You need to get out there and become whole"

Excuse me, huh... who died and made you the relationship guru. Just because someone gives you a sparkling diamond (whether it is large or small) doesn't mean you have a masters in behavioral science. If I want your advice on how to get myself "married off" I will ask for it. Don't hold your breathe, it won't be soon. I am enjoying my life the way it is.

P.S. If I seem a little down lately it is not because of my marital status it is because my car is dying, I have a lot of work and family stress, and I am dealing with a little bit of a broken heart!


Erincita said...

Girl, I hear and understand. I've been there, and unsolicited advice has been given out more than it should be. There is no reason why one person is married and you are not. I mean, apparently I'm not "whole" and also I guess I haven't had enough "trials" in life. Hmm, yeah, definitely not that. No one has that right.
Sigue adelante, amiga. You're lovely!

Jessica said...

Babe, Im sorry you are going through a tough time! hopefully it will be better soon! And for the marriage advice these people are giving you, I have never heard more crap in my life! It happens when it happens! Not because you are one thing or another! Love ya!

Reagan said...

so whoever said that to you should be shot. you became whole when you met me and you know it. ;)

Shannon said...

You know, forget all that and just have fun - you're single! Go out there and have the best time of your life, before you settle down and can't go anywhere because you have a mortgage to pay.

Kalli Ko said...

screw em

Kelsey K. Hartley said...

Oh man, this advise has come from someone who's watched Run Away Bride one too many times, bless her heart.

The Lord most certainly does Not dole out trials in order for us to earn our spouses. That's cracked.

Car trouble is THE worst!