March 5, 2008

Too much of a good thing....

My whole life I have been told that I am too kind. Kindness is something that I didn't think you could have too much of. Apparently you can and I have it.

First, lets define Kindness (thank you wikipedia) Kindness is the act or the state of charitable behaviour to other people. Kindness is considered to be one of the knightly virtues, and is a recognized value in many cultures and religions.

People tell me all the time that I am too "nice". What am I suppose to do, be mean. Really I don't know how not to be too "nice". Do I have to be a bitty to have people respect me? That is not what I want, I just want to be treated how I treat others. I certainly hope that I do not act in the way that I have been treat time after time. I am tired of feeling like I can't depend on people, that my friends are not true friends.

I am always the one who is blown off, I am always the friend that it doesn't matter if you treat her badly she will forgive you. This week has especially been hard for me. Along with work stress, yesterday I had a friend betray me and I know that if she says she is sorry then I will forgive her and act as if nothing is done. This is just one example of things that happen. I have a friend that makes plans with me and then at the very last minute 9 times out of 10 she bails.

I am tired of this. If you piss me off expect to hear about it. If you treat me with disregard don't think that a little phone call a day later with a pathetic I'm sorry, please don't be mad is going to do it. Friendship takes work, and here is a surprise to some people it is a two-way street. I will no longer do it by myself. If you want to be my friend act like it. What is going to happen? People are not going to want to be around me, well I can handle that, and this way I might feel better too.

*I know I talk a big talk, but I am pretty serious about this!

3 comments:

Tyson said...

oh, Steph! Sometimes I think I'm "too nice" too. Especially when it comes to certain people. I hope you're feeling better--and just know that you can always hang out with me.

Jenna Kae said...

i feel the same way... seriously, that describes me perfectly as well. i wish i could do something about it! we should join forces and have mean lessons once a week or something. i probably know some people who could teach us. :)

Terralee said...

If you have mean lessons may I come watch? Steph you are a sweetheart always, but there's one thing I know about my cousin and that is she knows how to hold her ground. I am so proud of you and all that you have accomplished. don't let people get you down and remember I am always here for you and I will never blow you off!